I realize, as an extrovert, I ask a lot of my boyfriend. Not only would I like him to be comfortable with me playing “Jingle Bells” on his nose ring, but I also want him to join my campaign to save phytoplankton and trees on any given day. So, for all you humans dating, or hoping to date an extrovert, here is your survival guide:
- Communication is key. Talk to them, and keep talking to them, because not only does interaction restore an extrovert but it makes them feel important as well. Pro Tip: If you’re not sure what to talk about, start listing things. Extroverts like working in plurality, exploring and having options is fun for them.
- Pay Attention. Not sure where to go on a date? Look at their habits. Extroverts tend to have repeated behaviors. Also, it’s sometimes good to take the initiative and not ask their preference. Since extroverts are mainly others-centric they will almost always choose where they know you would like to eat.
But don’t worry, an extrovert would never go anywhere they actually hated.
- Show them they are loved. The best time to compliment an extrovert is in front of people. Since extroverts put weight in others, being open about your feelings in this forum adds more weight to the situation and therefore your words, making the compliment even more meaningful.
- One-of-a-kind gifts. You may ask: What should I get for their birthday? Christmas? Valentine’s Day? Thoughtfulness is next to godliness for an extrovert. Moreover, extroverts enjoy uniqueness, humor and service. They love pizza? Buy a pizza-holding lanyard. They loves books? Buy a candle that smells like old books. Something that’s original, ties back to what they enjoy and can make them laugh is sure to win every time.
- Make their day. Do the little things. Make them either verbal or tangible. Let them know how proud you are, and how much they mean to you. Getting that recognition and reassurance from someone else is sure to bring your significant other out of the slumps.
In all honesty, extroverts aren’t that hard to figure out. We’ve told you 700 times how much our chicken nugget socks mean to us, and sung “Flawless” until you started to think we may have woken up like this. At the end of the day just compliment us, give us tangible evidence of your affection, feed us the food we like, and never stop talking – unless we’re talking, then never stop listening.
All facts in this piece have not only been ran by extroverted women but also researched, and can be checked in the following publications:
- Introverts and Extroverts. Freyd, M. Psychological Review, Vol 31(1), Jan 1924, 74-87.
- Spirituality for Extroverts : and tips for those who love them by Nancy Reeves
- Extrovert, Optimistic, Driven by Bowden-Jones, Henrietta