By Anna Tabet |
If I had a dollar for every time I was told that college would be the best four years of my life, I would be able to pay Baylor University’s full tuition. In my mind, college was going to be filled with endless fun and risk-taking. It’s been a few months, and I’ve spent more time questioning my existence while having popcorn for dinner than having a rad time with my 20 amazing new college friends.
I was confused when I finished my first week of college and didn’t have a definitive group of besties. I felt mislead by the dozens of TV sitcoms I had watched about the college experience. Not to mention, where was the notoriously tough, yet sensitive guy who would sit next to me in English class and couldn’t help but fall in love with my wit and mysterious eyes? He is definitely missing.
I was catfished by college, and I wanted to know why.
At first, I thought it was me. I thought I was an odd case. I thought I was the only one in the world who went to college and didn’t feel instantly right at home. But then I quickly realized that I was one of many who bought into this glorified image of college that doesn’t always ring true. I knew believing that college would fix all my problems was deceptive, but I did it anyway.
I wanted to believe that I’d walk into my first day in college and be handed a group of incredible friends, boundless opportunities and stress-free fun, but it didn’t happen. Being constantly told that college would be the best years of my life made me feel like every moment that wasn’t spent doing something adventurous and wild, ruined my chance of attaining the “full college experience.”
Instead, I’ve learned that college is much more than a stock photo of students cheering happily for their football team. It’s a place where everyone is just as confused as you are except they just don’t show it.
It’s okay to spend a Friday night watching a movie with your roommate instead of going out and doing something crazy. It’s okay to not have an instant group of 20 friends who would totally take a weekend trip with you to Austin. It’s okay to be open about the fact that you have absolutely no clue what you’re doing with your life. Finally, it’s okay to not have the perfect college experience because it doesn’t exist.
The only way to truly enjoy your time at college is to stop comparing your experiences. If you’re attending college, then you’re a real college student.
Stop feeling guilty about that seemingly uneventful night you had watching YouTube videos of people who speak different languages trying to say the word “squirrel.” (It was funny.) Allow yourself time to enjoy your time in college even if they don’t correlate with one of Buzzfeed’s lists of the top 10 things every college student needs to do. You’re in college; you’re experiencing new things. Enjoy it.