By Jordan Davidson |
I’m an introvert, so I naturally lean towards spending some time alone at home at the end of my day. Sometimes, it feels like introverts are presented as antisocial or shy because they like to be alone, but the truth is that there are a lot of benefits to hanging out solo.
First, you get the chance to unwind and relax. Whether you have had a long day or just happen to be the only friend in your group who isn’t busy, spending time alone gives you space to fully process what happened that day and do something that you want to without the influence of others.
For me, journaling with a cup of tea under a warm blanket helps me to calm down and think about what’s going on in my life. It also allows me to relax and let my body rest without the distractions of the outside world. I get to pick the activity that I know will make me feel rested and do it without the fear of hurting anyone else’s feelings.
Second, when you are alone, you learn to be independent. Whether you choose to hang out at your house, go for a drive, take a walk, or do something fun, dwelling in solitude allows you to appreciate independence. It also shows you how to operate on your own in a healthy way.
Friendships can be seasonal and you may not always have a super close group that supports you. When you spend time alone, you practice self-sustainability that could come in handy in other stages of your life.
Third, you learn more about who you are and how you operate. When you spend time as an individual, you learn to discern what you want. You acquire the ability to make decisions and think about things that you may not have devoted time to when you were hanging out with a group.
For example, one of my roommates is an extrovert. She loves being around people and feels the most energized when she is doing something fun with her friends. When a tough decision arises, however, she has learned that making time to go somewhere on her own allows her to gain more clarity on important choices.
One important thing to note is that there is a difference in being lonely and having a healthy amount of time alone.
I’m not saying that you need to become completely antisocial and cancel every event on your calendar to be by yourself all the time; but when you spend time unwinding, thinking, and intentionally learning yourself, you can gain confidence that allows you to be a good friend, good worker, and well-balanced person.
Whether you are like me and spend time alone because you need to recharge or you’re alone by default because all of your friends are busy, being by yourself isn’t always a bad thing. Try to make a space in each day to do something in solitude. Give yourself the time to relax, think, and learn more.
After all, you have to live with yourself for the rest of your life, so why not get to know you better?