By Jessika Harkay |

A lot of the writing I do is meant to be a letter to my future self from past Jessika who definitely was going through it. 

I write to myself knowing I’m bound to feel the same way one day whether that’s utter happiness or total distraught. And that comes from learning that time is a cycle. 

But another thing I’ve learned is that, no matter how many times I’ve felt broken down, it always feels like the first time. I somehow find myself saying “I never felt this way before” and that I’m hopeless. When, surprise surprise, it for one, is most definitely, not the first time. And second, I’m just dramatic.

 If there’s anything I can tell future Jessika who’s looking for a sign — or someone who was cosmically drawn to this article — it’s one thing: time only heals and moves forward if you move with it. 

The last time I took physics was when I was in eighth grade. So, I’m not going to get science-y on you, but Issac Newton’s first law of motion states: “An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.”

Now when we learned about this, it’s usually demonstrated on a white board with a poorly illustrated boulder rolling down a mountain or a video of a car driving down a road. No one really thinks of it psychologically or mentally. I mean I didn’t either until it was 12:43 a.m. on a Wednesday night and I realized I had an article to write but no idea how to start it.

Let’s start with an object at rest will stay at rest

A still mind will stay a still mind. 

Dwelling on the past will keep you in the past. You can not move on from what you’re suffering from if you refuse to let go of it and take a step forward. You are purposely choosing to live something over and over. And if you’re like me, you’re going to say you can’t or that someone doesn’t understand. But let me say one thing, anything you refuse to change, you are choosing. 

If you can pin-point that something isn’t benefiting you and continue to stay stuck in that period, you are choosing to stay at rest. You cannot feel better, you cannot move on, you cannot heal and you cannot grow unless you decide to put yourself in motion.

You have to realize that pushing yourself forward, pushes time into healing. 

An object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.

A step forward is a step forward regardless. My mindset is always baby steps every day. Just accomplishing one thing is still something that allows me to go to bed a different and more grown person than the one who woke up that morning.

You are in charge of how you move forward. The first step is the hardest. The coming to terms, the realization for change, that’s the hardest. Creating a plan and committing to it, that’s hard, but once you’re in motion, you will stay in motion. Once you direct yourself forward without looking back, you cannot go backwards. 

But of course, there’s outside forces that push us back to step one. It happens to everyone. It’s defeating and you wonder if you changed at all. But let me assure you one thing, if your mind is focused and stays committed to the “forward mindset,” You. Can. Only. Go. Forward. 

You are choosing to continue and time will follow your lead.

Time only moves forward if you move with it. Make that first step, stay true to it and push yourself onward.