By Jordan Davidson |
From late elementary school until my senior year of high school, I was a tomboy.
Not only was my go-to outfit a pair of boys’ basketball shorts, a tee, and a low side ponytail, but I was also proud of the fact that I successfully avoided wearing heels until my senior prom. Instead of attending spa nights and watching romantic comedies at a slumber party like any “normal girl would”, I chose to spend my weekends on the couch with a notebook, keeping track of all of my favorite college football teams and writing down the highlights.
I was proud of my identity as a tomboy. After all, I was the first and only girl in the city’s flag football league, I played as a starter on a co-ed soccer team, and I could outrun any boy on the playground until about 7th grade. Whether it was on the football field, soccer field, basketball court, in the gamer chair, or doing anything outdoors, I surrounded myself with guys and adventure. And I loved being one of, if not the only, girl daring enough to do it.
But it did get lonely.
Despite my confidence in my ability to hang and be one of the “bros”, I still longed for a girl gang. I wanted to be around people who could relate to my struggles as a young girl and boys were not likely sympathetic candidates.
Don’t get me wrong; I loved my guy friends. As a matter of fact, I still keep in touch with two of them. We talk every couple of weeks and I always try to see them when I go home. They are both so kind to me and I appreciate everything those friendships had to offer. But when I came to college, my entire friend group changed and I was suddenly on a campus that was 70% female.
I will admit, when I first found a group of consistent girl friends in college, it was a bit of a weird transition. My relationships with my new gal pals were a little different and it took time to adjust to the differences in maintaining female relationships. It didn’t take me too long to see the benefits of having gal pals.
For a long time, I was skeptical of female friendships because I didn’t feel like I had a whole lot in common with girls. When I came to college, however, I became friends with girls who had a lot in common with me. My friends love following college football games, playing intramurals, and wearing comfortable, casual clothes. They also aren’t afraid to go explore the outdoors and participate in activities like camping and cliff jumping.
My love for what was labeled “boy” interests growing up actually turned out to be things that helped bring me and my best girl friends together here at Baylor.
In the end, don’t sacrifice who you are to fit in. You may feel lonely in the moment, but the right people will come at the right time.