By Sukhi Borse |
For the past few months, anytime I have been on my phone I have seen stories about celebrities or other public figures being “cancelled.” When a person is cancelled, it means they have been boycotted because of a mistake they have made.
This has become far too common and so many people seem to just accept it. Even my friend randomly blurted out that she cancelled a few people in her life.
In fact, it wasn’t too long ago when I used the word during an issue that I had with a friend. If I’m being completely honest, I didn’t fully grasp the weight of what I was saying. At that time, I didn’t realize the implications of canceling someone.
Kevin Hart, for example, has basically been exiled from the public eye for a while because of his history of homophobic comments. Obviously, his comments weren’t appropriate and he should have never said them because they were hateful. However, it is just as bad that people continue to send him death threats because of his mistake.
We can cancel a subscription to streaming services and our credit card accounts, but people are not objects: they can’t be cancelled. Humans are not disposable; they are not something to just throw away.
People make mistakes. Although we shouldn’t excuse all behavior because of mistakes, we do not have the right to dictate someone’s worth within society. Canceling someone might as well be the equivalent of giving up on that person’s existence. This can lead to someone drowning in their loneliness which can lead to depression and other unhealthy habits.
Who are we to judge someone else’s mistakes and completely shun them from society? We all have made regrettable mistakes because we’re human and part of being a human means we are imperfect.
We can be angry at someone and not forgive their apology, but it doesn’t mean that we can be equally hateful back to them. This experience should be considered a learning curve. Kevin Hart is paying for his mistake: lost gigs, a halt in his career, and a forced resignation from hosting the Oscars.
Everyone is struggling with something right now. However little or however large, we are all going through life trying to figure it out for ourselves. Mistakes will be made because they are inevitable.
If someone’s mistake has hurt you, then talk about it with them. Some forgiveness is harder than others and I don’t expect everyone to be friends or to like everyone, but talking it out can give plenty of opportunity for reparations.
Everyone needs help. Instead of making someone’s mistake define the rest of their life, help them find their road to redemption by supporting them and telling them it’s going to be okay despite their mistakes. Help them find ways to make repairs and change for the better. People should never have to feel like their entire existence is a lost cause.
The best of humankind is when we decide to support each other towards the path of improvement not when we turn on each other and cancel someone’s existence.